They may hide their alcohol abuse for years without suffering any major losses.
They have learned critical relationship skills, including how to identify, process and communicate their emotions and to set personal boundaries while respecting the lines drawn by others.
I used to start craving a beer in the last hours of my work day.
When I first started drinking back in college, I placed parameters around when I was allowed to drink, generally limiting it to certain days and sometimes even taking a break for a month at a time to check that my drinking was under control.
After dating one dud after another, you finally find someone who seems to have it all – thoughtful, witty, responsible – and good-looking to boot.
Then they drop a bomb: “I used to be a drug addict.” They may as well have said, “I’m married.” But does one partner being in recovery automatically spell doom for a relationship?